I found two questions in my in-box today and both have to do with sexual relations.
Our first question comes to us from Alexandra. She asked:
I Attachment Parent and babywear. If my husband and I want to have sex, should we wear the baby between us, or should she ride on my back when I'm on top? Or should my husband and I stop having sex altogether for the good of our child since that takes away some of her attention which might ruin her attachment to me forever?
That's a great question, Alexandra! While it seems like not having sex at all would be the easy route, I will try to help you think outside the box. Sexual relations is very important to having more babies so it can't be cut out of your life.
While attachment parenting is important, it is ok to set your baby down every now and then as long as they baby can see you. Sight is important to babies. You and your partner also need to make constant eye contact with the baby to improve learning.
Why don't you and your husband place the baby in its boppy and put it at the foot of the bed so the baby can see both Mama and Daddy and everything you two are doing! That way the baby knows that Mama and Daddy are nearby and knows what a healthy sexual relationship looks like!!
Our next question comes from mildbrouhaha. She asks:
I'm pregnant and want to make sure that I have a birth orgasm and not any of that pesky pain from contractions. Any advice for me?
Well the first thing I want to say is that the "pesky pain" as you call it, is part of the punishment God put on us women for Eve's sin! There is no getting rid of that--But no worries, we are going to turn that pain upside-down and use it to power an Earth shaking Orgasm!!
The first rule of labor orgasms matches the rules of regular orgasms. The best way to achieve this is to place stimulation on the Prostate (The one inside you) and the clitoris (the one outside you). In cases of labor, the baby takes care of the prostate stimulation so it's up to you, your husband and your midwife to stimulate your clitoris!
You should try stimulating yourself first and if that does not work ask your midwife to help. Don't be embarrassed, she does this all the time!! If you have all three tried and still have not managed to induce orgasm, then outside tools might need to be brought in. I highly recomend "The Rabbit" as it is sized correctly for a laboring vagina (which is 6-7 times larger than a normal vagina).
Soon you will experience the most incredible orgasm you have ever had while also giving birth to a new light being! Good luck to you both!
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